letters?

[Sadie_5_3_09]

My Sailor is up in Albany waiting to get his flight to boot camp tonight and I miss him terribly already. We've been together for 10 months and haven't gone a single day without talking to each other, so not talking for these next two months are going to be really hard. I know i'm going to write him letters every single day but i'm not sure what to write.

I don't want to write anything that will make him sad or miss me more than he already does. I know I'm planning on sending him pictures of the two of us, just myself and some of my new puppy when i get him, maybe spraying some of my body spray on the paper so it will smell like me, but i'm just not sure what to write. If other girlfriends could help give me an idea it would be greatly appreciated.

[DK3]

I wouldn't send too many pics, especially if he took a couple with him. That will just add to the clutter in his locker which can impact him on his inspections. They (RDC's) will nitpick his locker, especially if they see something out of place at the beginning of the inspection.

Body spray isn't such a great idea either, especially at the beginning of training. Don't want to draw attention to himself by the RDC (Recruit Division Commanders)

Be positive in your letters, don't point out about how much you miss him, etc, as this can be depressing, I'm sure he knows that you miss him and you obviously know how much you miss him.

[KYmom]

No perfume, no body spray. No drawings on envelope to draw attention.
No pictures that you wouldn't want everybody to see. No musical cards,
Don't write anything that you don't want anybody to see either.
If he wants to save his letters & cards - send him a pre stamped manila envelope about half way through so he can send them all home.
Don't whine and cry about him being gone.... stay positive and upbeat. Help him be the best he can be.
Don't give him any reason to quit and come home.

Boot camp is also boot camp for you too. It is prepration for 7-8 month deployments.

[Sadie_5_3_09]

Thanks for all the advice, I know once bootcamp is over he'll be at A School and after that he's going into Submarine Duty, so I'm not sure if his Sub deployments are gonna be quite that long

[KYmom]

Originally Posted by Sadie_5_3_09

Thanks for all the advice, I know once bootcamp is over he'll be at A School and after that he's going into Submarine Duty, so I'm not sure if his Sub deployments are gonna be quite that long

Yes, they will be that long also. The sub familys don't get as much contact as the carrier and other ship familys on deployments. So start preparing yourself now.

Don't forget to go to PIR... It's awsome.

[sketch]

When I was at boot (graduated from it on the 12th of last month) pictures were ok. Just as long as they werent pornographic. Also clutter wise, your bf should be storing all his letters in his A&B Locker, which is a locked space that RDCs do not go into (unless they suspect contraband. But that shouldnt be an issue unless he does something really really stupid.) I wound up having tons and tons of letters and cards by the time it was over. Proper organizing will keep his locker nice and tidy.

[samanz35]

Is there a limit on how many pages/how long my letters should be to my bf soon to be in bootcamp? I know they shouldn't be terribly long. Also, how much time will he even have to write back to me on Sundays. Is it common for them to have enough time to write back to his family and his girlfriend too?

And as far as reading letters goes, will he have any free time to read the letters i'll be writing to him daily?

[Seth]

dont worry about how long they are, send all the pictures you want, keep him updated on your life, and whats going on around the world and stuff. by the time I got out of boot, I had at least 100 pictures, some big hand made cards from my nieces and everything else i needed in the locker drawer and i had room still. He will also probably write at night, I know I did and I still got plenty of rest for the next day and stuff.

[KYmom]

I sent a self addressed-stamped manila envelope to my son about half way through boot so he could send all his cards and letters that he wanted to keep back home.

[VaBchMom]

I wrote every day, sent cards periodically, family sent things and he still managed to keep everything until he left GL without a problem. I never sent a big envelope so that he could send the older stuff home as he never asked for it.

[stacey.moore]

i send my boyfriend a letter everyday. i have thirty three days until i get to see him :) he left july fifth and we went from talking everyday to nothing and it had to be one of the hardest things ever. :// but i received three letters at once, maybe bc they mail out once a week? butttt, i wrote on every one of my letters :// "i love you babe" and "letter #_" on the back of the envelope, i hope that doesn't get him in trouble :(

[Retired Navy Chief]

Originally Posted by stacey.moore

i send my boyfriend a letter everyday. i have thirty three days until i get to see him :) he left july fifth and we went from talking everyday to nothing and it had to be one of the hardest things ever. :// but i received three letters at once, maybe bc they mail out once a week? butttt, i wrote on every one of my letters :// "i love you babe" and "letter #_" on the back of the envelope, i hope that doesn't get him in trouble :(

Very cool .... and no, he won't get in trouble for getting letters from home. I know he is VERY grateful for each one. Tell your friends to drop him a line once in a while too ... always neat to get unexpected letters.

Cheers,
PISTOL

[stacey.moore]

but i actually wrote on the envelope itself. i was reading up there where it said they would get in trouble for all that. i guess i should not do that again. Lol. but i am more than elated to get his letters, waiting is all it takes for everything in this process of him being gone. waiting to get his letters. waiting to get his call. waiting to see him. ughh

[VaBchMom]

I wrote on the outside of my son's envelope occasionally, AND we did send a "musical" card and we disabled the music part of it and sent the instructions on how to make it work (if this makes sense). He popped it back into the card and heard it. He was in boot camp over Christmas so he was really wanting to hear something seasonal......

[DK3]

He won't get in trouble for you doing it. The reason we suggested it, is the fact, you really don't want to get noticed while in boot camp. Then they learn who you are and that's not good.

Occasionally shouldn't be a problem though.

[stacey.moore]

i wonder if he likes me writing everyday! Loll.

[DK3]

I would. I loved it whenever I received mail from the outside. I cherished each letter!!

[stacey.moore]

well gooood :) that makes me happy to know i can make him happy doing what i look forward to everyday, writing a new letter to him!

[DK3]

Well, you are doing well! Just keep the letters about what you are doing, what's going on around your house. Positive, positive, positive...

[stacey.moore]

I am very positive in my letters, but i also let him know i miss him, which i am sure it is understood, but it just happens. All my love is sent. prayers, hope, faith, and everything i can possibly send is with all my letters. what do they do with their letters?

[DK3]

What does who do with the letters? Austin? He will put them in his locker.

Don't dwell on the miss part. Every once in a while good, not too often. Don't distract him...

Positive, positive, positive.

[stacey.moore]

Ahh, i should stop that thenn. I end each letter with something along the lines of..

I miss you so muchh, and can't wait to be with you again. I love you so muchh and i am so proud of youu!

hmm..

[DK3]

Yeah, I would. Afterall, he misses you and you like wise. Don't need to remind him in each letter. The love and proud is great. Every once iin a while remind him that you miss him though...

[stacey.moore]

willll do :) thanks so much for all your help. Another question: He graduates AUg 27th. he leaves for pensacola the 28th, how long will we get to be with him the day of the graduation?

[DK3]

It depends. If he is a grad n go, he might within an hour or so head to the airport to head to Pcola. If he isn''t, he will probably have liberty over the weekend (have to be back in the barracks by 2100, except Sunday which is 2000).

http://www.bootcamp.navy.mil/rules_liberty.asp

[stacey.moore]

he wont leave the day of the graduation (27th) he said he will leave for pensacola for four months on the 28th, which should mean we should get the whole day with him, right?

[DK3]

Has he already been given that information on when he is leaving?

If it is correct, I would suspect that you would be able to spend the 27th with him up to 2100. And probably very little time on the 28th on count of him getting prepared to leave. That is just my take on it.

[stacey.moore]

he wrote that info in the letter, about leaving the 28th, i hope i can see him off at the airport as well. When will he have his cell phone back?

[DK3]

If I remember correctly, (my age is showing) I want to say that Seth and Steve said they got theirs back after graduation, if not then, definately in A School.

We didn't have cell phones when I went thru either of my Boot Camps!

[stacey.moore]

I sure hope soo, going without talking and seeing is super hard, but at least with the cell phone we can text, talk, and send pictures and what not. and know they have skype, i just see it getting alot better after he gets done with basic!

[DK3]

It will get many times better.