Personal Question.

[Ray]

I have a girlfriend that I have been with for a while and I know now is kind of late to be asking this question, but I will anyway.

Is she going to be able to go to my A school location with me? We're not married, and not sure if we will be anytime soon, but we love each other and want to be together. I will foot the bill for a place if I have to but I wanted to know what the policies on the matter were.

Thank you.

[cousinIT]

She can go, but the bill will be on you. It will be a while before you get overnight liberty so that you can actually stay with her, and more than likely you'd only be with her on the weekends. I wouldnt jump into that if I were you. A School is no joke and not saying this to be rude, but you honestly dont need the distraction. Your main job is to focus on school and get to the fleet after boot camp. After school is over, and you get to your duty station, then think about being together.

[KYmom]

She can go, but the bill will be on you. It will be a while before you get overnight liberty so that you can actually stay with her, and more than likely you'd only be with her on the weekends. I wouldnt jump into that if I were you. A School is no joke and not saying this to be rude, but you honestly dont need the distraction. Your main job is to focus on school and get to the fleet after boot camp. After school is over, and you get to your duty station, then think about being together.


She is so right.

Your girlfriend will be there with no friends or family for support and will expect you to give her moral support during your off time when you should be studying, and she will feel alone and ignored. You will be too busy studying to give her the attention she will need in a new place.
She needs to stay wherever she is with her family and friends. SHe needs to finish school, start school, work - save money, etc while you are in A school concentrating on getting good grades for your alls future.
Money spent for her to come to your A school location could be better used for place to stay when you are stationed somewhere after A school.
Let her come and visit you sometime during your A school.

Have her join some of the forums so she knows whats in her future.
There are some good Girlfriend forums where she can talk to others in the same situation. Some people have trouble coping with the Navy lifestyle and have unreal expectations of what their Navy life together will be like.
Navy-parents.com has alot of girlfriends and young wives on their that could share their experiences (good and bad), also lovinmysailor.com in another also that is supposed to be good.

What rating did you choose or when do you go to boot camp?

[Ray]

She is so right.

Your girlfriend will be there with no friends or family for support and will expect you to give her moral support during your off time when you should be studying, and she will feel alone and ignored. You will be too busy studying to give her the attention she will need in a new place.
She needs to stay wherever she is with her family and friends. SHe needs to finish school, start school, work - save money, etc while you are in A school concentrating on getting good grades for your alls future.
Money spent for her to come to your A school location could be better used for place to stay when you are stationed somewhere after A school.
Let her come and visit you sometime during your A school.

Have her join some of the forums so she knows whats in her future.
There are some good Girlfriend forums where she can talk to others in the same situation. Some people have trouble coping with the Navy lifestyle and have unreal expectations of what their Navy life together will be like.
Navy-parents.com has alot of girlfriends and young wives on their that could share their experiences (good and bad), also lovinmysailor.com in another also that is supposed to be good.

What rating did you choose or when do you go to boot camp?

Operations Specialist.
10 days.


:( Nevermind, we just broke up.

[nickhallnavy]

the navy's hard on relationships. you're getting a taste of that now

[KYmom]

Sorry to hear that you broke up. But if it's mean't to be maybe she will be around when you return after the Navy,are later down the road.
The bright side of the situation is you don't have to worry about what she is or isn't doing while you are gone. This gives you time to concentrate on you and what is good for your future and nobody else's.
I have seen some of the boys change their dreams of what they wanted to do - due to the g/f or the new wife not being able to cope with what they had signed up for.
And you certainly don't won't to fall into that catagory of changing your dream cause it's not what they want for you.
You may not see it as a blessing now, but you will in time.

[Ray]

I absolutely agree. I am not changing being in the navy for anything. This is about the only thing left that I can do and be successful in life imho. College is out of the question without the navy for me and i'll be proud of what I am doing anyway. Going to try to get as many computer certifications and degrees while I am in with the GI Bill.

Thank you for your kind words.

[cousinIT]

Sorry to hear that...just keep focused on the Navy and you'll do well. Keep working towards your career! You'll be an OS2 in no time, they advance really fast. Hang in there!