my fiance wants to join

[catherine]

my fiance has wanted to join the navy for awhile but i immediately told him no, because the first thing i thought of was him dying.. but after doing some research it doesn't seem nearly as likely as i thought.
i am hearing a lot of mixed things though, some people say it's really dangerous whereas other people say it's harmless. he wants to be in special ops.
i don't really want to speak to a recruiter, because my questions aren't nearly important enough in my opinion to bother them with.
i would be living on base with him so i am just really curious how the lifestyle is and the benefits and such. i've googled it and gotten really vague descriptions.. i would like a more detailed description, i guess, of what i should expect my lifestyle to be like as his spouse.
if anyone can give me any kind of information about base lifestyle i would be really thankful.

[KYmom]

Welcome to the board.
Can't answer alot of your questions but hopefully someone will be alon that can.
As far as his dying- he as a better chance of getting killed in the states in a mva. They will train him well for whatever his job will be.
I am a firm believer - when God wants you it doesn't matter where you are.

Depending upon how long & where his schoolilng is depends upon if you go or not.

Benefits is Inurance - but not awhole lot of money.

He will be gone alot and you need to learn to accept that fact now and come to the boards alot to learn how to deal with that fact.
You will go weeks at a time without communication with him, but just remember no news is good news.

Just ask away any questions and we will try to help you any way we can.
You may not always like some of our answers, but we are only trying to give it to you straight. We don't like the answers we give each other or ourselves sometimes either. LOL. . . . . . But Father Navy is boss and we do what we can to support our Sailors and to keep them safe.

[Retired Navy Chief]

Go with him to the recruiters office ... with a written list of ALL the questions that you BOTH have to be answered. The only stupid questions are the ones not asked.

If you are going to be married to the man, you need to understand (not necessarily accept) everything he is up against, and entitled to. That's what marriage is :biggrin:.

Of course you are going to be worried about him and his safety ... you'd be a really weird fiancee if you weren't. A job in SPEC-OPs would put him in considerable danger .... HOWEVER >>>>> I would much rather go into battle with a platoon of Navy SEALs behind me than ANY other group of men on the face of the earth !!

On a day to day basis in the regular navy .... things are pretty safe over all. There are some jobs that are inherently more dangerous than others ... like working on the flightline on an aircraft carrier. I was a firefighter in the Navy and you couldn't get me to do the flightline work :shakeheadno:, but we have 19 y/o men & women doing it everyday without a problem.
We are all "trained to the teeth" when it comes to safety, so things don't go wrong too often, and very rarely at the hands of the enemy (this isn't the Army or Marines).

Like I said talk to the recruiter ... several times if need be. Ask the same questions here too ... compare answers, whatever. We want your fiancee to succeed and YOU are an important part of that equation.

Cheers,
PISTOL

[Kristie]

Welcome.....we are glad you joined us....and I agree with Pistol...go with him to the recruiters office....there is no such thing as a stupid question.....

[Sirhcrod]

And know that when your fiance leaves his recruiter's job is to help you and his family deal with the transition.

Ask any questions you have because you'll always wonder if you leave them unanswered.