Mom Having a Hard time Adjusting

[rysmum59]

Hey all...My son just started A school at Goosecreek South Carolina and I know that it is very intense..My head gets it but my heart is a little behind I was used to hearing from him daily when he was in holding but now I only hear from him maybe once a week and I am having a hard time adjusting to this. How the heck do we as parents just let go and go with the flow???? It has been really bothering me alot!!! I want him to do the best he can at school but geez this is hard....Kathy...PNM of Ryan:rolleyes:

[KYmom]

I just had to find things to keep my mind occupied and to stay busy.
Hanging out in the chat room with the rest of the moms helps alot. It has helped me get thrugh the past 10 months.

[denmom]

Kathy I agree with KYMOM the chat room is a life saver.
Also if you can find some kind of hobby or something to keep you occupied.
Do you work outside of the home? If not see about volunteering somewhere.
A local school, library, hospital, just something to keep you busy.

It is hard on the kids too. As they are swamped with learning and studying and also spreading their wings. I know you may not want to hear that part but it is true. Our kids are learning new things and discovering what it is like to have freedoms they have never had before. But don't worry they know we are here when they really need us.

Good luck and definately try to join us in the chat room.

[Kristie]

The not hearing from them is a killer and I have 2 now that I don't hear from very regularly.....hang in there it will get better....

[sweetmtn]

Well as a mom of a kid on Goose Creek who is almost finished, I can understand your feelings. As my son went from high school to boot camp to Goose Creek, not hearing from him during boot was hard. He went right to Goose Creek and finally being able to speak to him more often was great. As he has been there more, it has come to more e-mails than phone calls and here is the reason. My son told me not to call him that he would call me when he could, between class and study hours time was very little. PLUS he said those guys that had to talk to their moms or moms called alot were teased unmercilously, being called "mama's boys" and worse, and even the Chiefs would make comments. "You are an adult, you dont need your mama to help you do you?", and "Whats the matter too hard for ya, you need mama's shoulder to cry on?"
I know it is hard for you, but he is a man now, and really needs to stand as one. As a mom, you just need to refocus on something new. Like was said, start a hobby, go back to school even. If you are a stay at home mom, then get a part time job to keep you busy. If you do work, then look into volunteer work with the youth to take up more empty time. You will be able to let go, little by little, it will get easier!

[Retired Navy Chief]

Hey all...My son just started A school at Goosecreek South Carolina and I know that it is very intense..My head gets it but my heart is a little behind I was used to hearing from him daily when he was in holding but now I only hear from him maybe once a week and I am having a hard time adjusting to this. How the heck do we as parents just let go and go with the flow???? It has been really bothering me alot!!! I want him to do the best he can at school but geez this is hard....Kathy...PNM of Ryan:rolleyes:

Hang in there, Mom !!! He's doing just fine and is in good hands. He just needs to get himself into a good routine so that he can juggle the studies and his personal life ... it'll happen. IMHO, this is actually a very good sign ... that means that he understands the importance of focus and being able to immerse yourself to concentrate on the task at hand even when you are homesick (or seasick :rolleyes:).

He's gonna do fine ... and so are YOU !! ;)

Cheers,
PISTOL

[NCMEDIC]

Just remember they are real busy and time is limited. Wait till they go for 6 months and you hear from them one...lol. Ok, sorry I bet that's not what you want to hear but it's true and we just keep busy, send him stuff, and keep going.