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firemedic07
12-12-2007, 08:12 PM
My wife and I decided that I am definatly going to join the Navy last week. Today we got a call from her cousin. Apparently his step-father is being verbally and physically abusive to him and his mom, and he is now living out in the woods in a tent. His mom wont do anything about it. She told us and my wifes cousin today that if we are willing to she will grant us full guardianship of him. I dont know what I have to do for this. We want to take guardianship of him but we dont know weather to do it now or weather to wait untill I officially join. Please any insight or suggestions on how to do this will be greatly appreciated.
KYmom
12-12-2007, 08:28 PM
Where is his father?
His father should be the one stepping up to the plate. Not sure how you taking guardianship would effect signing up for the navy. But then would the court let you take guardianship knowing you would be leaving for 8 weeks, and xx amount of time afterwards. How old is this child?
firemedic07
12-12-2007, 10:39 PM
No one knows where his father is, he abandined the family before he was born. He is 16.
mbnavymom
12-13-2007, 06:39 PM
I agree with KYmom...Not sure they would grant guardianship to you since you will be leaving. Then would your wife have to handle this 16 yr old while you are gone? Do you have children? This would certainly put a strain on your wife especially with you being gone then having to take care of a 16 yr old.

Is there another family member that could take on this responsiblity?
cousinIT
12-13-2007, 09:13 PM
You might want to talk to your recruiter first.
There are rules on how many dependents you can have when you first join the Navy, so talk to them first.
After you do that, your wife should be able to take care of everything and add him on to your page 2 while you are in boot camp.
NCMEDIC
12-20-2007, 06:06 AM
I would be concerned as to what pressure this would place on your wife. Husband leaving and now taking on a 16 year old. He and his mother should call the police if they are being abused...i doubt it will get better. If you legally adopt him then he would be like your son, not sure the Navy would mind or have a say so either way.