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speeqtruth
08-13-2009, 03:15 PM
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My wife is so sad, she has spent time, money, fuel, and effort to enlist in the Navy. But, every so closer to the goal line, doors just get slamed in her face. I have never felt so helpless and so hurt for my wife.

When she came to me, she wants to join the navy, I surprised and shocked, we talked about the pro and con's and the pros out weighed.

My wife has her GED and a few college credits, she's a great mother, loving wife, healthy, drug free, smart and want to do more for her life.The only stumble was either marring me or having her first son so young.

So our first visit to a recruiter when like this, Oh you have a GED well you gotta score more tha 50; OK, Oh you have3 children you we dont take more than 3 and with your spouce that 4 so you cant go active but reserve, give custody up of your first child; he's 8yr and if from her first relation and yau can go active.
She asked why does my husband count as a dependant he works adn had provide all moneys and I dont Im his dependant in real life. We didnt get a clear answer on that.

So she took her test and scored a 63, submitted and signed all forms and copies need by the requiter.
Then we file a Legal Doc with stated it was the right one for an individuals whom wanted to enlist in the military,Temporary Guardianship Agreement with Detailed Authorization
Regarding the Acquiring of Medical Care for Minor Children
(Including Consent of Temporary Guardians)

This we did three weeks ago, and the final request made by the recruiter was she had to wait for our new daughter to turn 6month that this Monday the 17th. adn that was the scheduled date of her MEPS.
So my wife started to workout, and arrange frr Christian (8yrs old) to move in with her parents, and she mentally was preparing for her MEPS.
DOOR SLAM # 1
We stop taking GED enlisties August 1st, there are not jobs for them. Get remaning college credits and maybe.
DOOR SLAM #2
Thats not the right form its got to be court ordered. Full Custody not Temp
DOOR SLAM #3
We wont waste money on sending you to MEPS you application needs to have the court order or copy. Plus you are GED so we cant send you anyways.
All this was today over an email, 4 day before her actual scheduled appointment of MEPS.
We met my lawyer today we can file custody to her parent no problem, 2.5g later, but one teqnicallity, Christians dad need to be served or relinquish his rights tehn we can give custody to her parents....and he is no where to be found, the Attorney General ran his name.

Retired Navy Chief
08-13-2009, 04:41 PM
That is rough ... my heart goes out for you both. Some people just have a lot of obstacles in their way ... and to be honest with you ... as a prior recruiter, those people had the most desire to join and I was always let down when they couldn't.

Keep in mind that the requirements and available quotas do change .... so if all her paperwork is taken care of and she has a qualifying score ... she will just have to see how she feels about leaving when the phone call does finally come.

Keep your chin up !!

Cheers,
PISTOL

KYmom
08-13-2009, 08:27 PM
Tell her to keep her chin up... and never - say never. Don't give up.

speeqtruth
08-14-2009, 12:52 PM
We had a moment of clarity, her and i. i wasn't sure if it was Hope, or Gratitude or a combination of the two. My wife she was so motivated, she has had her parents really do everything for her until she chose me,adn for onnce she felt a sence of direction one that woud meet her needs and a disire established since her shildhoo. Her dad was also in the Navy and her step dad was in the Marines. She says nothing ever works out for her. And, for once in my life i cried so deep for another human being i felt her pain, her need i felt her, wow i never really understood what it ment to be Human or or even a husband but its wonderful and sad at teh same time. We are a new family, and stuggle to do what best, work, family, God. We thank you for your kind words, and keep us in your prayers that we see our needs fit according to our abilities. I think we are putting a close to this chapter, she still is meeting with the recruiter this monday, even if its for closure. I love my wife so much it hurt.