New here :) have questions

[joshs_girl]

Hey :) my sailor just went underway and he told me I could email him everyday..but when I try to email him on his military account it sends me another email telling me it failed sending...why is it doing this? I really wanna talk to him.

[KYmom]

They may have the e-mail blocked. They do this quite frequent on the ships... Don't worry..
They turn it off and on depending upon where they are and what's going on.
Be sure and keep all your e-mails positive to him... you don't want him worrying while deployed.
Always try to keep things upbeat and very very positive. Being deployed and away from home is very rough on these sailors. If for some reason you decide to break things off with him,, please don't do it while deployed.
Also certain things in your e-mail may keep it from going also. Gotta watch what you say at all times.
Remember he is out there doing a important job and other sailors lives depend upon him as our lives depend upon all of them.
Stay busy and the time will go by quickly..

[joshs_girl]

It might be blocked? Dang.
I'm keeping really busy, i've got finals next week. Being upbeat on the emails isn't easy but I'm working on it really hard. Yeah he told me I've gotta be REALLY careful about what I say on the emails. And I don't wanna break up with him! But thank you!

[sweetmtn]

Also there is a size limit on the e-mails...so if you are sending pics...watch the size! Another thing, his account may not have been activated yet...it took my son a while before he got his done.

[KYmom]

It may take a few days to get his account activated if it wasn't active before he left.
Are you e-mailing to a navy.mil account or a ship account with the ship name???
If the e mail add doesn't have a ship name in it then it's not the correct one.
ALso write him letters or post cards in the mail also. Even though you e-mail him, it makes them feel good
to get real mail at mail call... and unlike boot camp you can make it smelly... LOL... with your perfume..

Keep in touch with his parents too, you all can share contact info. This helps when he only has time to contact one.

[joshs_girl]

hes been in the navy for 2 years..shouldnt it be active??
ill watch the size of the emails..im just writing him at the moment not sending pics...is there a certain size? like how many words/letters?
im emailing to navy.mil
ill have to get his address...theres a prob though with his parents..
his mom doesnt like me.
we dated in highschool and she just doesnt like me. she doesnt think im good enough for him and that hurts. :/
right now all i know is his civ email his mil email and his cell phone..also where hes stationed and what the ships name is.

[joshs_girl]

also, this is what i get when i try to email him

This is an automatically generated Delivery Status Notification.

Delivery to the following recipients failed.


its from the postmaster.cg65.navy.mil

[usn_nvineyard]

are you sure he gave you the correct address? I have gotten a similar message from yahoo when i typed the email wrong.
I think all navy emails are firstname.lastname@navy.mil ?? Dont quote me on that though lol

nevermind after reading above there is suppose to be a ship name in the email, sorry!

[joshs_girl]

he gave me the right email. ive tried dozens of times to send it and i always get the same thing back.
some people have been telling me to just wait for him to email me. that way ill know that he can talk.
well i think theres two diff ways you can email to the ship.
one way with the navy.mil and the other with the ships name in it.

[MacSteve]

all emails have your ship/station in there..
EX mine is Steven.Lastname@eu.navy.mil
Which forwards to @sicily.navy.mil

[KYmom]

My son has 2 e-mail firstname.lastnave@navy.mil
lastnamefirstnameinitialmiddlenameinitial@cvn.navy .mil
First one is for when he is a his shore station and the other when he is on the ship - notice ship initials in it.
Depending upon where he is which one I can e-mail too... Ship one is the one I used while he was delpoyed or out with the ship... now he is back in barracks and going to his main command station - so I use the regular navy mil one there.

Sorry to hear that you don't get along with the parents. Just put forth a good effort and see what happens.
As a mom they are probably just concerned of your age. No parent wants to see their child get too serious (marriage or pregnancy) at a early age. Maybe something along that order is a underlying fear of something that could happen before you both mature and see some of world that could be what she is afraid of.
Just stay positive - finish your high school and work on your lifetime achievement goals of what you want in life and how to obtain that.
My son has had same g/f for 3 years and 2 months... I like her very much, but I also knew that I didn't have to worry about her and him wanting to get married right away and having kids while they were so young. She wants to finish her college degree before getting married and joining him. They both have set some very responsible mature goals for themselves of which I am very proud of. He just turned 20 and will be in Navy for 2 years in July.

Hope this helps.

[joshs_girl]

well his is lastfirstmid@cg65.navy.mil
does that look right??
im 17 going on 18 though... shouldnt that matter a little? that ill be an 'adult' in a month? i want to get along with her but i cant until she decides that she wants to. really sucks.
im not one to get married/pregnant at this age. WAY too young. and he agrees completely.
ive seen a lot of the world. if you mean going to countries...ive been to more than a few. went island hopping with my aunt at 13, traveled europe with fam at 15 almost 16, went to ireland at 17. and ive been all over the US traveling. idk if that accounts for anything though.
im working on highschool right now. im not graduating this year though. i want to be a teacher. hes all for it. and he knows hes gotta wait.
its helping. my emails are still not getting through though. sucks major :(

[KYmom]

Address looks correct..... Just keep trying.... and keep trying with the mom... she has to give in sooner or later, just stay positive.
That's great that you want to be a teacher, just study hard and you well get there.
8 out of 10 parents don't really like the g/f or the b/f.... but they learn to accept. Just remember your not the first in that position and won't be the last.. LOL...

Check out the Navy for Moms website ( I am assuming he is on a ship) find the group for his ship and see if anybody else is having trouble getting e-mail.
Normally if one is they all are.
They take them down for security reasons, during certain areas and if something is occuring or if something has happened that they don't want leaked out.

[joshs_girl]

ive been trying every few hours. i ran into ((i got REALLY lucky)) retired sailors. they said that i should keep trying every 6 hours...ive been trying every hour or two.
i wanna try with the mom but i dont have the number for them in NC. and he doesnt want me talkin to her because she doesnt like me. he doesnt want anything breaking out.
i hope im not!! lol!
whats the navy for moms web addy? or is it on this site? he is on ship right now.
ill keep trying :) and ill look for the website.

[sweetmtn]

It appears that you may have the addy alright...but you might try to put it a few differnt ways. My son has his while on ship, Firstname.Lastname@cvn68.navy.mil and I know some guys have it last name first, then first name, but you need to have the "." inbetween first and last. Does this make sense? It is also case sensitive to capital letters on the first and last name.
Now as far as your age, his mother may be worried about you not being 18 yet, and not finished with high school. I know I was when my son was trying to date a girl that was under age. But my son was also 20 when the girl was 17, I personally liked the girl, just not the age thing until she reached 18. Yes they knew each other in high school, but once he turned 18, it was very hard to deal with. I know it seems petty, but in many states it is against the law for people to date a minor and it can ruin a navy or military career. They have since gone their separate ways, but remain friends, as he found he was given a real ration of crap from the other guys on the ship about her being so young.

[joshs_girl]

I'll def try to put a period mark inbetween. That might work.
That could be the reason. I'll talk to him about it when he gets into port. Should be calling me in a few days! Yay! Well I hope it's an age thing and not something else.
It could ruin his career. I wouldn't want that at all. I'd feel horrible.
And I found the navy for moms website :)

[joshs_girl]

And it's not petty, it's understandable.

[joshs_girl]

Sweetmtn...my sailor was ported with the USS Nimitz

[KYmom]

I agree on the age thing.. That is a biggy in this day and time. Peoples lives get ruint quickly when there is a break up and there is a age difference in that catagory.

[joshs_girl]

:/ i wish sometimes that i didnt matter about the age thing, but it does matter to the rest of the world. ill be 18 in a month. itll all be fine then :)...hopefully

[joshs_girl]

where do i put what ship hes on?? i know sweetmtn has duty and then USS Nimitz...but where do i put his?

[joshs_girl]

omg omg omg!! i think i was just typing a letter wrong! i havent gotten anything back from the postmaster thing...crossing my fingers that i DONT!!! yay!!!

[usn_nvineyard]

I hope it works!!

[joshs_girl]

it has so far!!! so flippin happy it went through...off to school *peace*

[joshs_girl]

ahhhh!!!!!!
it WORKED!!!!
cant wait for him to message me back! sooo excited! and SO happy! whoop!

[KYmom]

Yeah......

[joshs_girl]

i know emails have to go through certain people, but if his email is active when should he get it? or does it just depend on how they filter it and randomly check it?

[KYmom]

It would depend upon his access to a computer to check his e-mail. Some rating's have more access than others.
There are computers in the the common areas that they have to stand in line to use on their off time.
Some who have ratings that use computers during their workshift have a easier time of getting and sending e-mail.

I know some parents and g/f's go for days or weeks.
SOrry I couldn't be of more help.

[Retired Navy Chief]

Most shops will have one or two computers that the sailors can use to do their schoolwork and communicate home with.

When in doubt .... send a snail mail !! Perfume it up and slip a card in the envelope ... this will be quite a surprise to get an actual letter in the midst of all your emails !! Much more personal too !!

Cheers,
PISTOL

[joshs_girl]

A line? Ge'ez. I'd love to say I'm waiting patiently..but sometimes I'm just not a very patient person :/
Idk how much or even if hes got homework at the moment. Snail mail is extremely personal...if I had his addy. I love this site. Lol. Just have to keep waiting. If I don't expect it then maybe itll come sooner!