Hello.. i just joined and i still have questions

[pretendo]

hello my name is david i joined the navy on march 19th and i leave may 19th.. i am also newly married.. i have a few questions about the schooling process after boot camp.. im going into AE/CF and i just have a few questions about where my wife will stay and what its like being stationed in different areas..... i have my heart set on being stationed in japan and i want to know what its like over there.... so if anyone would like to answer a few of my questions lease and have aim please IM me... my screen name is pretendo27.... i will be looking forward to getting some answers to my questions

[KYmom]

Welcome..
Someone should be along soon to answer your questions correctly. But I will make some assumations here.
From my understanding school has to be 6 months or more in order for your wife to moved there (at navy cost).
If you go to Japen or somewhere - you have to be a certain rank in order for wife to also go there.

Like I said someone should be along with particular's on this. But this is just my understanding from the different things I have heard from others. But it does change according to rate, rank, etc.....
Just wanted to prepare you for her possibly not being able to join you for awhile.

[MacSteve]

hello my name is david i joined the navy on march 19th and i leave may 19th.. i am also newly married.. i have a few questions about the schooling process after boot camp.. im going into AE/CF and i just have a few questions about where my wife will stay and what its like being stationed in different areas..... i have my heart set on being stationed in japan and i want to know what its like over there.... so if anyone would like to answer a few of my questions lease and have aim please IM me... my screen name is pretendo27.... i will be looking forward to getting some answers to my questions

hey sorry to hear you want to be stationed in Japan.. Newly Weds under e4 cant go overseas on their first duty station. you will be stationed somewhere in the US, most likely on a ship. After your School, you and your wife will either live on base housing or out in town. On base housing is basically a house owned by the military, and they will pay you the money to afford the rent and such to live there. As far as out in town, basically the same thing, but not military involved. find an apartment/place you like, as long as its in your range of housing pay your good to go. In fact, Ill shoot you an IM.

EDIT: in school, yea its gotta be 6 months, or she will need to stay wherever she currently is.

[sweetmtn]

First "WELCOME"...they are correct your A school after boot camp needs to be 6 months long for the navy to pay to have her move there with you. ALSO, it can depend on what your rating is if she can come or not as well. As far as Japan...I know another young married couple, her husband is there, but she cant go for a minimum of TWO YEARS and MUCH paper work.

[pretendo]

well with my job i automatically get bumped up to E4 when i finish my school

[poddoc]

Welcome! You should visit the navy-parents.com forum. There are parents and spouses that have sailors stationed over there that may be of some help. I know that my husband would like to be stationed in Japan one day; he has been told different things (1. that married people tend to be stationed in the US and not so much abroad because it is more expensive to move married couples?? and then 2. it doesn't matter if you are married or not you go where the Navy needs you!). So good luck and try the other forum!

[MacSteve]

well with my job i automatically get bumped up to E4 when i finish my school

Ill explain it to you on IM......

[sweetmtn]

I know of a young married couple that herhusband is an MA, he is in Japan...she is stuck here in the states with their son. He was actually sent there UNACCOMPANIED!

[Retired Navy Chief]

I know of a young married couple that herhusband is an MA, he is in Japan...she is stuck here in the states with their son. He was actually sent there UNACCOMPANIED!


99.9 % of the time .... you have to volunteer for an unaccompanied tour. You are given a choice of other locations ....

However this is not ALWAYS the case .... especially if you have a special type of training that they require at a certain location and there are no other people who can transfer there. Unlikely ... but it is possible, so be prepared just in case.

In 20 years .... I was NEVER forced in to orders that I didn't want and I knew of noone who that happened to.

Cheers,
PISTOL

[MacSteve]

99.9 % of the time .... you have to volunteer for an unaccompanied tour. You are given a choice of other locations ....

However this is not ALWAYS the case .... especially if you have a special type of training that they require at a certain location and there are no other people who can transfer there. Unlikely ... but it is possible, so be prepared just in case.

In 20 years .... I was NEVER forced in to orders that I didn't want and I knew of noone who that happened to.

Cheers,
PISTOL

couldn't have nailed it better. we have a few married guys here who chose unaccompanied orders because their wives had some school to finish and will be joining them in a few months.

[Retired Navy Chief]

Stay away from unnaccompanied tours ...... let the single guys/gals take them. That much separation is way too hard on a marriage, even one that is very strong !!

Cheers,
PISTOL

[ProudNavyGirlfriend]

This was very helpful for me too, even though Matt and I aren't married (yet).

After he gets out of his schooling and is stationed somewhere, am I allowed to live with him off base, even if we aren't married at that time? He has two years of schooling to go through and I plan on joining him where ever he gets his orders to and I'm not necessarily sure we'll be married around that time.

[sweetmtn]

First off...yes I know this couple very well, and they tried very hard in every channel to get his orders changed so he could stay with his family..even had the command chaplain try to help. He also was not given a choice in location, even though he was in the top three of his schooling.

Kristi, as far as you living with him off base when he gets to his permanent duty station..yes you can. However, he will not have BAH to pay for a place off base until he reaches E5, so it would be out of pocket expenses as long as he is single.

[Morbid]

TO answer your question about your Wife moving to your "A" School with you.... As an AECF (ET or FC depending on what they choose for you in bootcamp) you will spend AT LEAST 6-8 months in Great Lakes. A buddy of mine from my division started filling out paperwork to get his wife and kids moved down here the day after we arrived. All it requires (As far as I know) is that you'll be at this station for longer than 6 months, and that you attain Liberty Phase II. Just talk to your LPO or LCPO (former better than latter) about it when you get to your Barracks in "A" School. Hopefully you'll get stationed in the Enterprise (BEQ 532) :P

[pretendo]

my recruiter told me i would have to be in school for a year or longer for her to beable to come out??? it seems like alot of what he said is kinda wrong, thats why i wanted to ask other people to see if i would get the same answer. im having a hard time trying to figure out what to believe.

[ProudNavyGirlfriend]

When Matt gets out of A-School he told me that he'll be a Petty Officer 3rd Class. I forgot what E-Rating that is, lol. But then he'd still have C School and Prototype School to go through before he ends up getting his permanent station. So I'm guessing we'll be ok in that aspect? Lol