Help!

[infinitepeacex]

I'm new to the site. My boyfriend of 2 years left only 2 days ago (April 6th). For anyone else who's going through this or been through this, how do you deal? It's just so hard to cope. I hate not knowing what he's doing or how he's feeling. :/

[carlylynn72]

Hey Infintepeacex! Welcome to the site!!! Hope that you stay involved and ask a lot of questions because it will help with the process. My husband got done with bootcamp about 3 weeks ago and I completely empathize with what you are going through. The first month was the roughest on me, but then I got to hear his voice and realized there was only a month left before I saw him again (I actually did it by weeks...that's how I counted down!) I didnt receive my first letter from him until 11 days after he left....but let me tell you how much it will melt your heart! The best thing to do is to stay crazy busy and try to write your boyfriend every single day. They love receiving mail...helps get them through the day and boosts their performance. Try to stay positive when writing though...no one wants to think that their absence is causing you pain or sadness. I'm not going to tell you it's easy, but it will definitely build strength on both of your parts. What you are feeling is completely normal. There are a lot of girlfriends and wives going through the same thing right now, so keep up with all of us and ask questions. We've all been there at some point. You will be fine...just keeping telling yourself that his graduation will be here before you know it! Hope to read some more of your posts in the near future!
Carly:)

[ProudNavyGirlfriend]

There's nothing I can say better, Carly did an excellent job :)

My boyfriend graduates in 2 days, and let me tell you it is the longest months of your life waiting for all of it to end, but its going to be worth it.

Stay really busy, and trust me the writing helps like you wouldn't believe. It'll make you feel conceited, but that's all he will want to hear about is you and whats going on in Civilian life. :) Even if you don't really have anything to talk about that day, just a simple "I love you and miss you" will do the trick.

It'll pass, it'll be tough, but before you know it you'll be in my shoes saying "2 days!!" :)

[infinitepeacex]

Thanks so, so, so much! This just feels so hard because he only left a few days ago, and I already miss him like crazy. Shoot, I missed him before he even left. I'm trying to stay as busy as possible. But, I can't fill every crack. So, when I have down time, I always try to divert my thoughts. It never works that way though. I know I'll get through it, somehow. I'm just coounting down the minutes until he graduates and I see him again! Can they come home after basic? And, how long does boot camp usually last? I have so many questions. Ahhhh!

[carlylynn72]

Bootcamp will be about 9 weeks...but I've heard it's going up to 13 weeks. So be thankful he left when he did! I doubt very seriously he will be able to go home after bootcamp. They usually go straight to A school or sub school and if they don't, they'll keep them in Great Lakes where they will continue to "work". Who knows what kind of jobs they'll give them. But more than likely he'll go straight to his next assignment. He may even be a Grad N Go...which means he'll leave directly after graduation. He'll let you know as soon as he finds out anything...so be patient. He's not keeping anything from you, it's just that they don't find out what's going on until last minute most of the time! Keep the questions rolling...people enjoy helping and giving any info they can. Plus I enjoy "filling in the cracks" on this site! I had the hardest time in the evenings while my husband, Adam, was gone. I started working out at night so by the time I got home, ate dinner & showered, I was ready to hit the sack. Just be open to doing new things and taking the opportunity to explore avenues you'd always thought about but never had the time for!

[Jisty06]

The best thing I find to do is keep busy! My husband left in 2007 and has been gone since.. and I am going crazy! lol.
Just try your best to get out and dont let yourself get too down about it.

[infinitepeacex]

What's A-School? Gosh, I don't know a lot about all this Navy stuff. :/

[poddoc]

Welcome. I was in your shoes about a year and a half ago. I missed my husband terribly, but like everyone else said, I stayed busy and wrote a letter a day (he was gone over a few holidays and so he got fun cards in addition to letters). He enjoyed getting sports news and general news in my letters. I also sent pictures. I went and made up a bunch of wallet sized pictures and sent one every other day! Of course, the pictures have to be G-rated!! He was at boot camp for 8 weeks (excellerated division--- which meant less time off on weekends and holidays). I think the average is 9 weeks.

A School is the next school he will go to after boot camp. It is designed to train them for their chosen job. Sometimes they have additional training after A-school (sub school, C school, nuclear power school, etc). The length of A-school depends on his chosen job (my husband is a nuke and is finshing up a year and a half of additional training with the Navy).

Good luck and post often, it will help fill the gaps.