Another Newbie!

[NavyWifeMama]

Hello Everybody!

Been here for a few days now, but I haven't had the chance to officially introduce myself.
My name is Sydney. I am married to Jake. We are both 23 (although not for long, he'll turn
24 next month, and I'll turn 24 in June!) He's a "DEPPER". As of now, his "head out to basic training"
date is June 16th. :) We're very excited, but very nervous at the same time.
We currently live in the basement living room of his mom and dad's 2 bedroom home.
Not the best of space, but we're still very thankful! :) We have two kiddos.
Beckham Jacob just turned three. He's a tow-headed sass with the biggest brown eyes you've ever seen. lol
Love him to death. Sarcastic sassy-ness and all!
Holden Stanley is the newest little guy. He was 4 months old on
Valentines Day, which was also the day, one year ago that we found
out we were pregnant with him! He was born on October 14th via Cesarean @ 11:51 pm. :)
They are usually the best of friends (depending on the mood Beckham is in, because obviously,
Holden doesn't really have a say in it. haha) I can't wait to jump right in and get info
and advice from this wonderful group of people. A few of you have already made me feel more than
welcome, and I really appreciate that! Can't wait to get to know the rest of you!
Are most of you mom's to sailors/sailors-to-be? Or wives/girlfriends/fiances to sailors/sailors-to-be?
Talk to you all soon!

♥ Sydney

[KYmom]

Welcome.
Glad you could join us. We have a wide variety on here.. We have retired sailor's, active sailors, future sailors,
Sailor moms, Sailor wives and g/f's..
We will try to answer any questions that you have.

[ProudNavyGirlfriend]

Welcome!!! :D

I'm (you guessed it!) a Navy girlfriend. Lol! :) My boyfriend, Matt, is in boot camp right now... soon to be sailor (to me he already is a sailor in my books!)

So glad to have another one on our boat! ^-^ It's very nice to get to know people in the same waters as the rest of us.

[AirForceBrat]

Hey. I'm new too. Just joined.
I could REALLY use any help I can get. My boyfriend is going to be signing with the Navy soon and I'm not really liking the idea. As my user name points out, I'm an Air Force Brat (my dad was AF for 20 years), so I'm only used to being the daughter of an AF man. So I have no idea what to expect or how to deal with my boyfriend's decision. I'm supportive of him 100% and I will be with him for the rest of my life, but I'm not sure of how to deal with any of this. So any help would be much appreciated! Thanks!

[usn_nvineyard]

Welcome to the forums!

[ProudNavyGirlfriend]

Just try to understand their forms of etiquette and their ways of dealing with their sailors. Its just another branch of the military, hun, I'm sure you'll be fine.

welcome to the forums!!

[akd72085]

Welcome to all of you newbies! I am a former Navy girlfriend but I have made some great friends on here which is why I am still a member. Feel free to ask me any questions you may have and I will do my best to answer them for you! My ex-boyfriend just graduated from Sub School recently and also just became a Silver Dolphin (obviously, yes we do still talk), trying to work things out in a way. So again, welcome and hope to make some more great friends! ~Ashley~

[AirForceBrat]

Thanks. I mean I know that it's just another branch and that they have different ways of dealing with everything, but I'm just freaking out about the 6 months on 6 off. I mean me and boyfriend are wanting to get married and have a family someday, but I don't see how that's going to be possible with the 6 and 6. Like I already have troubles being away from him for a week (I'm a student at a college that's not near him). How do you deal with your man being gone that long? How do you keep your relationship from falling apart? I'm just scared to death that I'm going to lose him because I know that the Navy (and any military service for that matter) changes the person and what if we don't change together? You know what I mean?
Sorry I'm being really insecure about all of this... I'm just scared.

[akd72085]

AirForce, no need to be sorry! Everyone has those same concerns and fears with their loved one going into any military branch. Part of the reason my boyfriend and I broke up, first, before he left for basic and the 2nd time just before Valentine's day. He definitely did change, 30 years old and he joined lol. His fears were based upon not wanting to ruin my life or anything, so that is why he closed himself off from me. We are currently trying to work things out for the 3rd time but I don't know what will happen. My AIM screen name is KrzyAZNGrly72085 and my yahoo messenger is AKD72085. Feel free to message me anytime! I'm a good listener

[ProudNavyGirlfriend]

Thanks. I mean I know that it's just another branch and that they have different ways of dealing with everything, but I'm just freaking out about the 6 months on 6 off. I mean me and boyfriend are wanting to get married and have a family someday, but I don't see how that's going to be possible with the 6 and 6. Like I already have troubles being away from him for a week (I'm a student at a college that's not near him). How do you deal with your man being gone that long? How do you keep your relationship from falling apart? I'm just scared to death that I'm going to lose him because I know that the Navy (and any military service for that matter) changes the person and what if we don't change together? You know what I mean?
Sorry I'm being really insecure about all of this... I'm just scared.


You know if you guys are planning on getting married and what not, you can plan the wedding during his 6 months away (you still get to talk to him and such while he is out) and then get married when he gets back. It takes a lot of determination to keep a military relationship together. But it sounds like you two are strong , what with the idea of marriage bopping around.

Matt and I are in the same situation. Only I won't get to see him for two years since he'll be in South Carolina for schooling. I keep myself preoccupied with finishing my schooling, getting myself certified and work. I also hang around all our friends to fill those open cracks of time.

Its hard, I understand. But if you two believe in the relationship that you guys have. If you're in love with him and positive that you want to stay with him through the hardships you'll face... :) then there's no reason to worry, sweetheart.

My AIM: cybergirl7008
My MSN: lily_of_the_valar@hotmail.com

:) Feel free to lay it on, girl, I know exactly what you're going through.

[AirForceBrat]

Oh dear goodness. THANK YOU SO MUCH! :smile:
That helps a lot. Helps put my mind at ease. I decided earlier today that I would rather go through really hard times with Ted, than to not have him. At least he realizes that things are going to be difficult and he's willing to work on keeping things as easy as possible for me (which won't be much, but it's better than nothing). I know that we have the strength to make it through. I'll also have the support of wonderful people like you. Honestly, I must say that this is something that's better than the Air Force. They didn't have anything like this back when my mom was going through all of what she did. I'm glad that I have something like this because it sure makes it a heck of a lot easier. :smile:

My AIM: Hottsurfer89

[carlylynn72]

Hey AirForceBrat,
Welcome to the forum. You will receive so much support from everyone and never feel bad about how you feel. It is common for an experience like this to bring out insecurities. My husband and I have been together for a little over 3 years but didn't get married until 1 month before he left for bootcamp. Not getting to talk on a regular basis and have uncertainties can make any woman wonder if her other half is going to change drastically and if it will be in a positive way to benefit the relationship. The one thing that I can say makes me confident in our relationship is that we have amazing communication. We both try our hardest to see it from the other's perspective. He knows how hard I am working to maintain the homefront and I realize how hard he is working to build for our future family. I can't say that it's the easiest thing in the world to maintain a relationship over the phone/letters/email but just have faith in your love, respect and trust. And you can handle a family with 6 months on and 6 months off...think of all the families that did it before us. You keep what's important in focus. If you tell yourself you can't handle it, then you wont....but if you are certain that you can handle what's thrown at you then you will. Stay positive, stay busy and keep receiving support. Realize that NOTHING is a gaurantee, whether your spouse is in the Navy or not...so just try to be as encouraging as you can to your boyfriend and his dreams and take full advantage of every moment wit him. You will grow together if you are both working in that direction. Good luck with everything! You will be fine. The hard times are worth enduring to relish in the great times.

[ProudNavyGirlfriend]

Besides, sweetie, the hardest part of this entire thing is the boot camp. A full 13 weeks (now anyways) of not getting to hear his voice is heartbreaking. But when you get those letters and the occasional phone call (we've only gotten two heh) your world flies :) and then suddenly its graduation time.

I've got you added. I'm looking forward to talking with you :) You sound very passionate about this, as most of us in your situation are. ^-^

[alexkatherine]

I guess I should start by introducing myself. My name is Alex, im 23, and recently started dating a Navy Boy. Hes the best thing to come into my life in a long time, but this is the first time Ive been with someone in the military so of course a thousand thoughts are racing through my head. He left this morning to go back where he lives (about 4 hrs from me), and I know it could be alot worse.. so im thankful that he doesnt live on base, and that we do have that freedom to be able to spend time together between my job, and his.. but with another year and 1/2 to go.. i know its so uncertain. But as only a girlfriend.. is it ok to be sad and to miss him? Even when hes not 1/2 way around the world? I know goodbyes are only going to get harder, but Im just hoping that someone can understand where Im coming from?!!

Anyway, thanks for listening!

[carlylynn72]

Girlfriend, wife, mother, sibling...it's okay to be sad no matter the relationship. It's very hard on the person at home waiting to hear from or see their loved one. Don't ever feel bad for how you feel, plus I'm sure your boyfriend is happy to have someone love and miss him that much. Saying goodbye never gets easy in my mind. I don't even like to say goodbye on the phone!!! But I welcome you to the forum and look foward to your future questions. If you have any concerns or are inquisitive from a girlfriend/wife stand point, please feel free to contact me. And there are a few Navy girlfriends on the site that I've met and they are going through the same feelings as you! Keep your head up and stay crazy busy. You'll make it through...it'll be a lot of work but worth it! Thank your boyfriend for his service!
Carly:)

[ProudNavyGirlfriend]

Awwww!! Its ok, I definitely understand where you're coming from on that. I miss my boyfriend like you wouldn't believe, and he's all the way in South Carolina! Lol. I was missing him even before he left and I told him that every night before we went to bed!! Haha. I don't like saying goodbye either, it really sucks... so I try NOT to say goodbye, I say "See you later!" it makes me feel a lot better and gives me that feeling that it might be sooner rather than later that I get to see him again.

Keep your chin up, dear!! :) This will all get better, I promise. If you need someone to talk to about it, feel free to contact me. I've got some of my contact information under my profile. I'm a good ear!