Really Confused

[navygirldarlene]

Ok...as I've told everyone I'm with Scott and he has a one year old daughter Bella...I love them both with all my heart...Scott and his babys mother had joint custody over Bella..But she has now checked herself into a mental institution so got has Bella full time now...When he met her mom yesterday to get her Bella had pooped all the way up her back and had peed through her clothes...Also was drinking spoiled milk and got really sick...I'm so happy we have her now but than again i dont want to be the one taking her from her mom does that make sense to anyone but me well got to go to next class talk to you later...

[navygirldarlene]

ok let me finish explaining now so yeah i dont know what to do i love her to death but i dont watn to take her moms place... I know i would love being a part of her life and would do anything for her....Shes only one so i will pretty much be raising her until i leave for basic in october and than leaving in october is gonna be hard because i will have to leave her and Scott behind

[youngnavywife]

Well from working in the hospial i have seen many cases of this. And if the mother can not take care of her daughter and checked herself in then the courts should see that she is not ready to be a part time mother. Maybe she should have rights to see her baby and spend time with her. But it sounds more the the little girl is in better hands with you two. And i know leaving your kids or step kids is not always easy but just think in the long run you are giving her a better life. So think more about the baby and not the mother because babys did not get asked if they want to be born we chose for them so there for we should do anything to make then happy and healthy that is how i look at i should now i had my oldest son when i was a senior in high school and i had to work two jobs and be a single mother for along ass time into i meet my husband who feel in love with my kids before me well good lucky keep me posted

[ProudNavyGirlfriend]

Oh wow.

I know where you're coming from... but a woman like that shouldn't be taking care of a baby until she can take care of herself first. Bella is in better hands with you and I'm sure Scott can handle her by himself just fine when you go to basic. It'll be hard on the both of you, but you can handle it. :) You're a strong independant woman and he's a devoting boyfriend and father... I trust you two will be ok!

It's a lot of responsibility! So make sure that you're first priority is getting to school and your education... and then your boyfriends daughter (why in that order, because he is her dad and HIS first responsibility)

[navygirldarlene]

Well from working in the hospial i have seen many cases of this. And if the mother can not take care of her daughter and checked herself in then the courts should see that she is not ready to be a part time mother. Maybe she should have rights to see her baby and spend time with her. But it sounds more the the little girl is in better hands with you two. And i know leaving your kids or step kids is not always easy but just think in the long run you are giving her a better life. So think more about the baby and not the mother because babys did not get asked if they want to be born we chose for them so there for we should do anything to make then happy and healthy that is how i look at i should now i had my oldest son when i was a senior in high school and i had to work two jobs and be a single mother for along ass time into i meet my husband who feel in love with my kids before me well good lucky keep me posted

Yes I agree with you totally and you are right she is in better hands with us and I will do my best to take care of her and i do not think she should have custody but i dont mind if she sees bella

[navygirldarlene]

Oh wow.

I know where you're coming from... but a woman like that shouldn't be taking care of a baby until she can take care of herself first. Bella is in better hands with you and I'm sure Scott can handle her by himself just fine when you go to basic. It'll be hard on the both of you, but you can handle it. :) You're a strong independant woman and he's a devoting boyfriend and father... I trust you two will be ok!

It's a lot of responsibility! So make sure that you're first priority is getting to school and your education... and then your boyfriends daughter (why in that order, because he is her dad and HIS first responsibility)

yeah....And yeah i think Bella is in better hands with me and I'm glad that even though you don't know Scott that you realize he is a devoting boyfriend and father...And yeah your right I am an independant woman and I will put school before her..because with out school there is no navy for me....I'm glad to have your support....It makes me feel better to know that I have people to talk to if I need anything thank you so much

[youngnavywife]

Good luck and stay strong you guys will do just fine

[navygirldarlene]

Thank you

[ProudNavyGirlfriend]

yeah....And yeah i think Bella is in better hands with me and I'm glad that even though you don't know Scott that you realize he is a devoting boyfriend and father...And yeah your right I am an independant woman and I will put school before her..because with out school there is no navy for me....I'm glad to have your support....It makes me feel better to know that I have people to talk to if I need anything thank you so much

You're welcome sweetie. :) Well I can tell he is by the pictures you've showed me and the way he tells you to go to school and supports you. And you're independant because you're fighting for your rights to be in The Navy AND the fact that you're joining the Navy.

You know we're here for you if you need anything!

[navygirldarlene]

yeah you are right he is devoted and you really can tell from those pictures..I have one of us together on my phone as soon as i get minutes i plan on sending it to my email so i can post it on here

[ProudNavyGirlfriend]

Cute!! I'll be happy to see that :) She is such a pretty girl and he looks so happy to be her father! ^-^

[navygirldarlene]

yeah i know i love them both so much