Tough day

[youngnavywife]

So today was the most tough day i will ever have to face in my young adult life. Me and my husband have been married for 4 months but have been together for over a year. Even when dateing his last delpoyment in groton ct did not bother me all to much i was busy raising my sons and working and doing my think of course at that point in my life i though we would never be husband and wife. But he came back a different man and changed alot from that last delpoyment. But today was hard i got up at five and helped him finish getting back and drove him to the boat. After that i went back home to get showered and dressed and to get the boys dressed to. And was back to the dock for 9:00. I got to kiss my husband good bye and as i promised myself i would not let him see me cry infront of him and that i would be very strong i broke down like all the other navy wifes with young childern or who just got marryed. After there boat pulled away i though i would be all right into my youngest son started to cry and wanted his father. My oldest son who is only three keeps telling me not to cry and it will be alright where my little guy keeps asking when are we going to pick up daddy. So alll anyone out there who can tell me somthing to make these six months go faster or easyer with out breaking down in tears every time i walk in my house or go to place that we always went to together i would love to hear about it. This delpoyment that he went on makes me feel like half my heart is ouit to sea with him and i would feel whole again into he get home again. Well hope to hear from everyone and there ways on how they dealed with deployment. Thanks again

Becky :bigemo54:

[KYmom]

You need to contact the family readiness group and ombudsman for his ship and get involved in their activtities.
This will halp you immensly. They will have lots of ideas and activities for the wives and kids.
You need to take advantage of that service. It wil help you and the kids more than you think.
It's all in learning how to deal with it.. But you will get through it.
Just try to think positive.

[youngnavywife]

Thank you so much it is lonley with out him around here. But i will do that thank you so much!

[navygirldarlene]

when my stepbrother was gone wat kept me going was sending him emails, talking on myspace and aim it kept me going...Hes one of my best friends and we went through a lot together like my father dying so i missed him soooo much...Hes even the one who is gonna walk me down the aisle when i get married...Hes home now and i never want him to leave again cause yes i was sick with worry when he was gone but the emails here and there and ims on aim kept both of us going

[youngnavywife]

thanks just alone today we have e-mail each other tons and tons of times which is kind of helping but i still miss him alot well thanks again anyone else want to tell me how they made it threw feel free the more the better

[KYmom]

I know the wives group that is from my son's ship is a very close knit group. They have all kinds of play dates for the kids and nite out's for the moms and stuff.
They will also do recordings from the ship to base for the kids, and recordings from the kids back to the ship and stuff.
Plus they will give you ideas to help the kids get thru it.

[youngnavywife]

That is sweet. I am hoping the ombudsman calls me soon from the boat i have been trying to talk to from the time we got here but still no answer and she was not at the dock today when they pulled away they say she never comes because she crys to much so i am hoping that she calls really soon and as soon as she does i hope everything everyone is telling me is somthing she does well thank you again. Tonight is kind of better then this morning but still hard on me!

[KYmom]

If you check out the ships web page it should have some more contact info.
My son's ship has a web page with link to a family readiness web page and yahoo.group.
Also if you have meet anyone else that has a spouse on the ship also.

[dallasnavywife]

awww...this is going to be a very tough day for you! Im here for you if you need anything! If you want to vent or need a shoulder...just let me know. Take care of you and those kiddos. :)

[youngnavywife]

thanks i will keep that in the back of my mind. I had a hard time sleeping last night and i found when i woke up this morning that i had two little bed partners they really miss him alot. But i am hoping that as the days go on this all get a little easyer for me and the kids and i am going to do everything everone is telling me about to keep them busy and me busy so we dont really think about it. Well thank you to everyone for your suport.

Becky

[akd72085]

Hey Becky, sorry to hear you are having a rough time! Let me know if you need anything at all! I'm here for ya chickie

[youngnavywife]

thanks girl but i seem to be doing ok now the frist day was the hardest and ever day after that seem to get better. I know most likely mid way threw i will be in tears again really missing him but thanks for everything

[ProudNavyGirlfriend]

I'm sorry that it's so hard on you!

:) Think of it this way though, you get to talk to him as often as possible and get to hear from him. He isn't THERE, understandable, but you get to hear from him.

Were you two together when he went to basic? Think of how you got through that (which is ten times harder, because you don't get to hear from them save for maybe once a week if they can get a letter to you through the mail). It gets better and you'll be counting down those days til he gets back home. ^-^

I'm getting through Matt's boot camp by this site. Talking to the girlfriends and wives on here is the best thing for me... and I'm sure it is helping you out too! :) The people on this site are wonderful and help you through everything you need with advice or well wishes.

Good luck, hun, I'm sure everything will be ok... and if you need someone to vent it on or cry to I'm definitely a listening ear :)