Bad news...

[akd72085]

HI Everyone,

Bad news everyone, I broke up with Matt tonight. He just has changed so much since he left, some for the good and some for the better. I just can't deal with the way he treats me anymore...I will miss all of you! Thanks for all of your support. If you want to keep in touch, my e-mail is Akd72085@yahoo.com and my AOL Instant Messenger name is KrzyAZNGrly72085. Hope to hear from all of you!!

Thanks,
Ashley

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[KYmom]

So Sorry to hear. If your relationship was meant to be it will work out in the long run.
Maybe it's the distance that's gonna be there that caused the changes, plus all the studying he will need to do.
Sometimes guys will change the way they treat you so they don't have to be the one to break things off or cause they just need to commit to what there going thru at the time. Keep us posted.

[Rezzy]

So Sorry to hear. If your relationship was meant to be it will work out in the long run.
Maybe it's the distance that's gonna be there that caused the changes, plus all the studying he will need to do.
Sometimes guys will change the way they treat you so they don't have to be the one to break things off or cause they just need to commit to what there going thru at the time. Keep us posted.

Very true, I feel I'm in the same boat with my current girlfriend.

All I can say is hang in there and don't let it get you down. Enjoy life and all it has to offer :)

[jes1917]

me too...my ex-girlfriend was supportive of my joining the navy, but it wasnt the lifestyle she wanted to live...she's about to graduate from college and she wants to have the freedom to get a job and not have to worry about leaving it when i get out of a school...plus, being a nuke was a kicker for her, six years was just too much....but i understand completely, i told her that i did what was best for me, so she has to do whats best for her

it will all be okay though:)

[akd72085]

Hi all, thanks for the support! I was very supportive of him and the decision he made, even though he never discussed it with anyone just went out and did it. One of the letters he wrote me while in basic actually asked me to move with him and I was so ready to, I wanted to be there for him through every step of the way and to travel with him and just be there to support him. Apparently, I wasn't good enough for him. I would've packed up my bags and moved the next day had he said the words. He had wanted to make decisions face to face so we could discuss everything together. One day he was talking about me moving with him and the next day he has a complete change, I just don't understand.

[ProudNavyGirlfriend]

Aw, I'm so sorry to hear that, hun. I understand how hard it is for you. My boyfriend (also named Matt) is going to be in for 6 years on the Nuke and I could tell before he left that it was going to change him. Its just a matter of how things change. In your case, for your relationship, it wasn't doing you any good. The up and down, roller coaster thing is hard to handle and no one should really deal with that much.

I hope you're happy either way you decide what you're going to do. Just make sure you put yourself where you know you'll be happy and you trust those decisions! :)

[akd72085]

So matt sent me an e-mail last night asking for another chance, it would be his 3rd chance though. He broke up with me a month and a half before he left for boot camp because it felt that he was protecting me and after a couple of weeks he decided he didn't want to be apart, and it felt good to know that he realized his mistake. Does a person really deserve a 3rd chance after they've already messed up 2? So frustrated

[carlylynn72]

Hey sweet!
Honestly, you are the only one that can answer that. If it's truly a healthy relationship worth holding onto, knowing that this Navy situation is going to come with ups and downs, then I think it's worth a shot. However, if it's a continuous cycle of unhappiness, uncertainty, and not enough give on his part then you might want to walk away for a bit to get a clear view of what you want in life. Every relationship is different and most worth fighting for if both are giving 100% and are respectful to one another. You both need to try to see it from the other person's view. But he needs to be your boyfriend, not your child to teach and guide. I hope whatever is best comes from your situation. You deserve greatness!

[youngnavywife]

Hey sorry to hear about the news. I guess i am a little late on the news seeing i am trying to get my husband ready to go out to sea for six months. But here is what i got to say on this because i have been threw it before with my husband. We had our ups and downs and it was not easy. We broke up and got back together and then finally one day we got marryed but about a week later we where back at it with each other and want to call the whole thing off. After i left the house and went to a friends house did we both see that we truely love each other and the navy does put some stain on people and there familys. So this is what i am going to say you should just follow your heart. Maybe time away from each other is the best thing but in the long run and the end if you both truly love each other then we will get back together and make things work out for the better if it dont work out then you are still young and there are many fish out in your sea. Trues me i always though adults where crazy for saying that into i meet my husband and he feel in love with my childs before me lol! So keep your head up high and move on because one day you never know what is going to happen. Well if you need anything you know how to reach me plus i will give you my cell phone over aol im so you can call me. I will talk to you later

Becky

[navygirldarlene]

yeah i will also give you my cell phone number on aim so u can call me sometime and things will work out in the long run just follow your heart...I'm preparing for those breakups ahead of time before i leave cause im sure it will happen eventually

[akd72085]

So Matt and I have been talking on and off again, he says he realizes he made a mistake in letting me go again. Said it took hanging out with the right people to realize what we have and he said hes going to do whatever he can to make me realize he has changed. He has looked into the future and what he wants and realized that I am who he wants by his side in the future and that I "complete" him. I want to believe him so badly but at the same time I am very hesitant. A girl can only put her heart out on the line so many times to be trampled on, you know? I still love him with all of my heart obviously. I believed he was the "one" for me, stupid I know. He said if he could do it all over again he would have me there in CT with him already and I asked him what he missed about me and he said "how devoted you were to me." Any advice ladies or guys? Is he just coming back to me bc something didn't work out with someone else? I don't want to be the backup girl and I don't think I deserve that either. If he really wants to be with me than he really needs to prove it that I am the one and only in his life, you know? Sorry for the venting, just stressed out about him and work stuff!! Thanks for any advice you can give me =o)

[ProudNavyGirlfriend]

It doesn't hurt to see if this is for real. Go into with your heart guarded until you feel you can trust him with it again. Some guys genuinely realize they've made a mistake and very honestly want you back. Tell him that its going to take awhile for you to really trust him again, let him know that he hurt you and its going to take a lot to get over that, but you're willing to give it another shot to try. Men don't normally say those types of things and not mean it. :P Its too girly for them, lol.

So give it a shot, hun. :) But keep yourself on your brain and make sure you don't get hurt.

[navygirldarlene]

i definatly agree with Kristi chicky go in guarded......I think you guys will make things work though love you girl good luck

[akd72085]

Thanks ladies for the advice!! I've definitely been guarding myself again, as usual lol Blahhh to men haha We will see how it goes I guess...

[ProudNavyGirlfriend]

Good luck, sweetie! I really hope it works out for the two of you.