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[perfectlyflawed]

hey everybody my name is Michelle im 22 and i have a 16 month old little boy and my bestfriend has got me wanting to join and i think it would be the best thing for my family ...... :laugh:

[KYmom]

Welcome Michelle,
Glad you could join us........ What are you going to do with that precious little one while you are in boot camp and gone for 6 months or so at a time?????
Are you ready to leave him with no physical contact for long periods?
I hate to cut straight to the point, but there are soooo many young girls that go in with little ones and then can't handle that aspect of it and get out.
Everything else you will do during boot and deployment will be gravy compared to leaving your little one behind and not having physical contact and missing large periods of his life.

[perfectlyflawed]

im so glad that you said that .... to be honest i want to join but if it takes that much time away from my son then im not goin to b/c hes my number 1 thats why i made this so i would see how it would be if i joined i know i could do the 2 months it will tear me apart but i could do them b/c i was bettering our future but the 6 months i thought i could have him w/me .... ahhhhhh lol also thx so much for responding

[KYmom]

There are no guarantees that you will have shore duty your entire time in or that you won't be deployed somewhere oversea's depending upon what rating you sign up for.
Plus depending upon where you are stationed at if you were land based entirely who would watch him for you??
There are alot of logistics to work out being a single mom in the service. (assuming your single)

[Retired Navy Chief]

another thing to consider ... you would be required to sign over custody to someone in order to join. It wouldn't matter if it was a parent or significant other ... but it would need to be done.

Unless your situation is that dire ... I don't recommend it. There are plenty of other ways to take care of your family.




Cheers,
PISTOL

[perfectlyflawed]

thanks everybody but i have decided to wait and see if this is what i really want to do and to be honest i dont even think i can join b/c im 4`10 but its ok everything happens for a reason .....

[KYmom]

thanks everybody but i have decided to wait and see if this is what i really want to do and to be honest i dont even think i can join b/c im 4`10 but its ok everything happens for a reason .....


Your are so right..... I wish you the best in all you do..
Have a great Christmas with that little one, as my little one is deployed in the gulf...
Enjoy them while you can and their young.

[perfectlyflawed]

:biggrin: Thanks everybody for all the input i really needed it and i hope you all have a wonderful Christmas ........im so glad i joined this site !!! yall have helped me out so much ..i had a talk w/my fiance last night about it and he knows i wouldnt last w/o him our Landon (my lil 1)......AGAIN thanks

[Ray]

Good thing you stopped in here, no telling what some of the recruiters might have told you. Thanks for stopping in and checking your options with people who know what they are talking about and aren't trying to get their quote :)

Before I end this post, i'm not saying all recruiters are like that. Nor have I actually met one, all of my recruiters were straightforward with me. I am sure there are some out there though, heard all about them from my shipmates.

[perfectlyflawed]

See thats what i was told by alot of ppl i am soo glad that i joined here!!! b/c w/o all of yall telling me this i prolly would have believed everything that i was told and the last thing i wanna do is sign my child over or leave him for more than 9 weeks maybe 1 day i will have me a lil Navy boy lol also my bestfriend steph(Lamb) on here is leaving in april so ill deff still stay on here and thx everyone so much !!!!!!